Now I know.
I know what all people want to know and I am going to tell you without asking for a credit card number or a email address.
There is a life long secret and I am going to share it with you today.
I am not an expert, but I am a man that has taken the time to think long and hard about one thing that has perplexed us for ever.
Ok ok ok so what is the secret?………..
I have figured out secret to a successful relationship.
The information that I am going to enlighten you with will change your life and help you understand relationships, love and marriage better.
The secret is not really just one secret but it is several secrets, that brought together will give you the ultimate blueprint to a successful relationship.
The relationship blueprint has 5 rooms. Each of the 5 rooms is as important as the other room, without each room being filled with love and willingness the blueprint has no foundation.
Each of these secrets/rooms are in no particular order but as mentioned before all equally important.
The first room is Communication. Being able to communicate in a rational, calm, smart, non condescending way a amazing asset in a relationship. Communication is so amazing because what we say we should mean and what we mean we should say. Communication not only allows one to speak and tell, but it also allow you to ask questions and then shut up, thus increasing your understanding of the situation. When you use communication as a tool to build a relationship you will stimulate your mind. People yearn to communicate, look at all the mediums, cell phones, text messaging, instant messages, telephones, and computers. Denying yourself healthy communication will be detrimental to your foundation that you are attempting to build for the relationship blueprint.
Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after. Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Another important room is Honesty. Some people will call the honesty room the keeping it real room. Honesty is all about being upfront and communicating in a healthy and caring way. There is absolutely no way to be able to communicate effectively if you are not honest with your partner. When you impart your honesty with someone you are opening up a gateway to your mind body and soul. By being honest you are creating a safe place for your partner. When your partner feels that you are being honest with them they they become at ease, remember you have opened the gateway to your mind body and soul and partner can see that. People appreciate complete openness. Honesty and communication work hand in hand and without one or the other, the foundation of the blueprint will never be stable enough for you to build on.
An honest answer is the sign of true friendship. Proverbs 24:26
The third room is Trust. When you have trust in a relationship you are truly giving all of you. To be able to trust someone takes effort and time. See we tend not to trust as quickly because we have been burned, disrespected and lied to at some point in our life. The trust could have been destroyed by a family member, an ex, a friend or a co-worker. Trust has a lot to do with feelings and emotions. As we know feelings and emotions are not easy to control and are not based on tangible things, yet solely based on life. Gaining and giving ones trust takes work and might be the most fragile of all of the rooms. Read the rest of this entry »